The New Self & Edifying Speech

Words reveal what’s happening in the heart. Jesus said that out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. So when the text addresses our speech, it’s really addressing the state of our transformation. The old self produces corrupting talk; the new self produces words that give grace.

“Corrupting talk” encompasses more than profanity or crude jokes. It includes gossip that tears down reputations, complaints that spread discouragement, criticism that crushes spirits, and words that destroy rather than build. The old self uses words as weapons, as tools for self-promotion, as ways to dominate conversations and control narratives.
But notice the positive alternative: speech that builds up, fits the occasion, and gives grace to those who hear. This is beautifully specific. Not all encouraging words fit every situation. Sometimes grace looks like gentle correction. Sometimes it looks like celebration. Sometimes it looks like patient listening before speaking. The new self is wise enough to know what the moment requires.

The phrase “give grace to those who hear” is stunning. Your words can actually minister grace to people. When you speak truth in love, you’re extending God’s kindness. When you encourage someone who’s struggling, you’re being a channel of divine strength. When you speak words of hope, you’re pointing people to Christ. This is the high calling of redeemed speech.

But then comes the sobering warning: corrupting talk grieves the Holy Spirit. Think about this. The Spirit of God dwells within you. He sealed you for redemption. He’s working to transform you into Christ’s likeness. And when you use your tongue for destructive purposes, you grieve Him. You’re working against His sanctifying work in your life.
This should change how we think before we speak. Before you send that text, post that comment, or say those words—ask yourself: Will this build up or tear down? Does this fit the occasion? Will this give grace to those who hear? Or will this grieve the Spirit who lives in me?

Consider your speech patterns. What comes out of your mouth when you’re frustrated? What do you say about people who aren’t in the room? How do you respond when someone disagrees with you? The old self defaults to corrupting talk. The new self, empowered by the Spirit, can choose words that heal, encourage, and point people to Jesus.

Today, pay attention to your words. Not just the content, but the tone, the motive, the effect. Ask the Spirit to guard your mouth and transform your speech. Remember that you have the power, through Christ, to speak life instead of death, grace instead of condemnation, hope instead of despair.

Thought for Today: 
Before I speak today, I will ask: Will these words build up and give grace, or will they grieve the Holy Spirit who dwells in me?